The impact of divorce on our children

Today we face a bunch of studies in Western countries, proving that divorce has a devastating impact on the psyche of children experienced separation from their parents. View that what is good for mom and dad is also good for kids is, if parents want to divorce, it is OK for their children severely undermined in the public domain. Does this mean that a civilized divorce can be more traumatic, than Otto lives in a poor and dysfunctional family? So the question that comes to the fore what is better for the psyche of the child, it grows among the many scandals and God forbid violence, but with two parents or a more relaxed atmosphere of divorced parents. Both opinions are his supporters and critics, but statistics show more and more increasing rate of divorces in our country over the last ten years.

In countries like the U.S., where half of marriages end in divorce there is even a concept happy divorce. It means a civilized separation between two former spouses, and give everyone a chance to sort their lives better way, without a negative impact on the psyche of children.

Happy or sad conclusion is not valid for all children that divorce leaves a lasting impression and long on their personality, their views on life and their relationships. Children have a strong inner conviction that Mom and Dad should be able to cope with as a conflict and that no mountain stood before them can not remain contained. Divorce undermines their security and ability of parents to care for them fully. From the perspective of children to divorce is betraying them and nobody is able to convince them otherwise.

Divorce is a potent stressor that affects the psyche of children, their emotional reactions largely depend on the age at which they are located, many of them feel anger, sadness, guilt, worry not, these feelings rarely influence the formation of their character. Stress that causes divorce is associated with many changes and very real sense of loss. Children grieve the loss of family, they might have had more experience grief of losing a parent. That is why when it was explained for the separation they continue to hope that their parents will reunite one day. Particular increases this grief, if the child received no response to his emotions. These behavioral emotional stress of divorce may continue for months or years as mentioned above it is important that age, the child is located.

Signs of stress in different ages of children:

Newborn to 2 years, the infant can be sad for many changes or sudden separation from a parent. Signals that an infant feels sad include increased nervousness or cry, and changes in habits sleeping and eating. Children at this age are sensitive to the sections. Of separation anxiety can result in reticence and sadness.

From 2 to 5 years, children in this age group need constant care, but since have developed a long-term memory and language skills they are more independent. Signals that are experiencing stress include prolonged separation anxiety and regression to earlier behaviors, such as finger sucking, bed wetting, etc. The child may cry frequently, the occurrence of angry outbursts, he lives in constant fear and anxiety, he feels that something is going on around him can not understand.